To heal within a family unit, one really only have to be themselves. The conditions which are placed onto children (I love you if, don’t love you if) are not as solid as they appear.
When someone is “coming out”, whether it be as a homosexual, spiritualist, drug user, comic book reader... anything really, the way to heal is to stop defending. In defence we are actually implying that we do have a problem. We need to prove something. When a part of our selves is fully integrated there is no defence or attack, simply being.
The power of being without defence shifts an entire perspective.
It may be that we find a pain/pleasure addiction to thinking we have done something wrong, and then wanting to fix/defend it. This is self work and his little to do with the others in the family.
When this is fully realized, true connection can happen. There is no trying to convince the other.
This doesn’t mean a sort of “silent ignoring” either, nor an extravagant showing. Not attack, nor defence, just the truth.
You will not “finally be free” once your family accepts you, but this is a metaphoric representation for you to “finally be free” when you accept yourself.
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