Stepping Out of Victim Mode

This is a touchy subject!  To dishonour the part of ourselves which appears as a victim is to drive it deeper into the shadows.  But to continue indulging the victim within is to continue a pattern which has no exit.

A victim consciousness will always keep up its appearance and accrue evidence, in an eternal fashion.  There will always be a reason why it is right, and other options wrong, and a physical experience to confirm this fact.

So what we are looking to do isn’t to fight it, and tell it that it is “wrong”, as this is the same pattern in a backwards fashion.  We are looking to “shift” our understanding, loosen up the grip of this understanding, and allow space for a fresh perspective to come through.

Let’s begin this process with “The Observer”.  It is said that it is observation, which changes the course of history.  By observing something with a fresh perspective, that is the very space which true change can and does happen.

Who is the observer?

It is You!  It is not the thoughts that “you” are having, this is a conditioned version of opinions which does not have room for new insight.  “you” are the 1^st person mode which cannot experience a relative point of view.  You on the other hand, are the ever present witness of everything You have ever done as a human, and beyond.  You do not have an opinion on what is happening, but rather observe things as though You are watching a television screen.

So here we have two you’s – One is “you” who has an opinion on the way things “should be”, “can’t be”, “would be if”, and “will be when”.  And one is You, who does not have an opinion, but rather sees things as they are.  Nothing added or subtracted.

This writing is designed to take you out of “you” and into You without claiming “you” as a problem, but rather pointing out the narrow perspective that “you” can only ever have.  Like a snapshot, in a never ending, always flowing reality, “you” get stuck in one perception, and mistake it for reality.

Emotions:

What might be considered the tricky part, is that “you” come with emotions and feelings which feel like what “you” are thinking is happening.  Ultimately, this is fuel for the illusion of being a victim.

“you” are having so many thoughts all at once, that there is no space for objectivity.  Only the view that what "you" are thinking and feeling must be the ultimate truth, is this true?

Practice:

To see -what is- without an opinion on how it should be, we are stepping out of 1^st person mode, and into 3^rd person mode.  We are watching from the eyes of the witness or observer, the fresh space of the present moment as it is without wanting anything different.

Take 3 deep breaths, simply to kick start by observing the effect it has on your physical body.

Now, allow every thought and emotion that goes with that thought to come up, but WATCH.  Watch the opinions on who you are, who they are, what they should be doing, etc…

Watch from the perspective of the moment itself… feel what is being felt, and think what is being thought, but do not BELIEVE.

Repeat this practice as often as you can.  As "you" allow You to see, thoughts and emotions begin to unravel themselves, and underneath is the freedom of Who You Are.  Pure awareness, pure seeing.

This is not an intellectual exercise!  And it is also not to somehow diminish discernment in the ways you want to live your life.  This is purely for the victim within to see that it has never been a victim, but rather an opinion which has taken on a life of its own.

Love,

- Josh